The Different Types of Affairs |
Posted: April 12, 2018 |
An affair can be for different reasons and of different types. Here we give some relationship advice and talk about types of affairs that you could have and the motivation behind it. Most people think that having an affair means you want sex, but not always. It might be because you truly have a connection with someone, it might be because that person makes you feel important and cared for or it might be because you were drunk and didn´t know what you were doing. It all depends on the situation and the case, it doesn´t mean that cheating is acceptable, but it means there is always a reason behind it. Sexual Attraction Obviously most affairs start off with sexual attraction. When you find someone you are truly attracted to, there is always temptation. It depends on whether you act on it or not. In these cases, the affair is based on just sex. You want to have sex with that person because you have an overwhelming sexual attraction and you act upon it. Here, most likely, the affair is momentaneous and the attraction fades with time. This is probably the most common type of affair that happens, it doesn´t really have much justification and you don´t really feel much after doing it, since the connection you have with the other person is purely physical and nothing more. Most people are regretfull afterwards, feeling as if they have lost someone who they have a true relationship with for a quick encounter with someone else that really has no future. Revenge Having an affair for revenge can happen sometimes. When you are feeling overwhelmed with hurt, anger and want your significant other to feel the same, you might make a rash decision and cave to temptation. This might happen because one partner has been cheated on and wants the other to feel the exact same thing or because they were so hurt they didn´t find of any other way to hurt the other person as much. Most affairs are destructive but these affairs based off anger and resentment have some of the worst survival rates. When a relationship is as toxic as this, that you resort to having an affair to hurt your other half, it might mean that you aren´t right for each other and that the relationship has run it´s course. Relationship Affair In these cases, we are mostly talking about long term affairs. Here, the one cheating keeps telling the one who they are cheating with that they have a relationship and that they will leave there partner for them. Basically making promises that makes the other person wait for them and stay in the affair without having the consequences of leaving their relationship. In most cases they never leave their wife or husband, the truth is if you want to leave your partner for someone else, you will. What you won´t do is string along the affair for a huge amount of time. In this case they just want the best of both worlds, staying in their long term relationship and having an affair on the side. Most times the “other” person ends up heartbroken. Emotions This can be a tricky one. When emotions are involved in an affair it can be a different story. Some affairs can be just emotional, without sex or touching, but with a real connection with someone else. It can be even stronger than a physical affair because you are talking about a deeper understanding with the other person. They can happen when you feel disconnected with you significant other, when you don´t talk or relate with them anymore. And most people want and crave that kind of connection. You might just be friends with this person, but buy devolping a deeper emotional relationship you are creating a space in your life for that person to occupy that should be for your long term relationship. Besides that, an emotional connection is a gateway for a physical one, feelings can be developed and things can happen. Love Falling in love in an affair means the affair has gone to a whole different level. We are talking about an emotional and sexual connection in one. These feelings and desires mean you want to be with that person, and end your previous relationship. Falling in love with the person you are having an affair with means that, even though you cheated and probably hurt another person, you did it for real feelings, and because you want to be with this person after all of this. The relationship might not work in the future but the feelings were there, and much more than just a physical relationship. On the up side you might have found a more compatible person to be with and you might be happier. For your current significant other, this kind of affair most likely means that your relationship is over. So we can assume that it is the affair that most hurts, and in most cases ends up in divorce.
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